A LESSON IN SELF TRUST

Have you ever fallen prey to the subtle comments that seem more like tear downs from supposedly well meaning friends and family members?

There will always be people in your life who try to tell you what you should and should not do and what they believe you’re capable of. I’m not talking about constructive criticism here because that is a necessary part of becoming your greatest version. I’m talking about unconscious behaviour that even the person delivering is possibly not aware of.

Let’s just take a good honest look at why people may be motivated toward this to illuminate the situation.

The hard truth is that the majority of people in your life will not truly want what’s best for you, they will encourage the version of you that best serves them. A huge part of my journey has been learning what to tune out and what to take as invaluable advice.

There was once a trusted advisor whose opinion I had placed stock in due to his success. At first I revered him and held his opinion in high regard, but over time it turned to disdain merely from observation and how he treated others.

When I was at my lowest point with a mountain of bad choices I had to rectify, I had expressed my ambitions as a designer and what I wanted to accomplish.

He looked me dead in the eye said “I don’t think you know what you want to do” He also said something along the lines of “You’re best suited to being a server in a pub” It was mind blowing to me that this seemingly smart man couldn’t really see me at all. All he chose to see was where I was currently at. In that moment, an epiphany happened. He either needed to tell himself that to absolve some sort of inferiority complex or he literally thinks I’m stupid and don’t have the mental capacity to go after something I want.

Both scenarios would unfortunately put him behind in the level of respect I was able to maintain for him. His rudeness alone lost him points as a human let alone someone whose advice I should be taking.

Not only did I know exactly what I wanted to do, I had already set on my own path to doing it and it didn’t matter in my mind how many twists and turns I had to take to get there, I was going to accomplish it within ten years.

Okay, admittedly, he didn’t know I was already so invested and part of how people treat you will be guided by how up front you are with them so maybe I should grant a little grace lol.

So I guess this post is really about that. Always keep a grip on what you know to be the truth about what’s inside you because there is not a person on the planet who knows you better than you know yourself. Tuning out the noise of other people’s emotional garbage trucks is a skill you must master if you are going to succeed in anything.

Also, the knowing that this challenge is never ending is something you have to accept. As someone who has experienced varying levels of success I have seen that with every level of success you will find friends in your life possibly fall away due to either you being a reminder of the dreams and goals they know they have scattered to the wind or simply because of projections of what they know they are not capable of so they put it on you.

Trust that the friends who fall away when you decide to better yourself are not there for any kind of greater good. When you find people that genuinely see what you need and are willing to adapt and grow along with you, those are the people you can trust will have your back for life.

And they are precious few

x

Stay high babies